The process of adoption search and reunion is usually an overwhelming and life changing event. In my experience, it is one of the top things you will ever experience and…
It answers questions.
It helps you discover who you are.
It uncovers your medical history.
It fills an emotional void.
It builds a stronger foundation of support.
and much more!
But…on the flip side it can also turn up bad memories and sometimes even rejection, which is devastating.
About 16 years ago, one of my greatest experience was my adoption search and reunion. The process took several years and finally in 1994, I discovered a birth sister. An extremely emotional and gratifying reunion. Shortly thereafter, we discovered our birth mother and have since kept in touch. At one point we had 5 generations together.
I am very close with my birth sister. The connection was instant. I also feel very connected with my birth mother, her husband and two children, a fantastic birth sister and brother, quite a bit younger than me.
But there are so many parties involved. Adopted parents and family, the extended family of my birth parents and siblings. It is not without obstacles and sensitive issues.
I have recently come back from a wonderful visit with my birth mother in Moncton, New Brunswick and have spent some time discovering more details and connecting. It was not without it’s ups and downs but generally a fruitful visit. I look forward to sharing more information on adoption and adoption reunion so stay tuned.
In the meantime if you would like to share your story and glory, I would love to hear from you.
4 thoughts on “adoption search and reunion”
Hey Stephen, it’s awesome that you reconnected with your family. If I ever have children it will likely be by adoption due to the fact that so many kids are suffering in this world by not growing up with loving parents…. However if possible I think I would always aid and help in a later reunion if the possibility presented itself.
Forest…how true. A complicated issue, not without controversy and emotion. Reunion is a wonderful aspect of adoption that presents a whole series of issues and wonderful moments. After all you can never have enough people to love and cherish.