what is holding you back from changing your life
|January 4, 2011||Posted by simply stephen under change|
The New Year is always a time of change. Traditionally, we consider it a fresh start.
A time of hope.
Many people talk about resolutions, goal settings and good intentions. I don’t plan on doing that here. I don’t plan on offering solutions either – you have to discover them for yourself by working on them.
The answer is within you and only you to find out what is holding you back from changing your life.
On a more practical level, much of the western world is coming back from a holiday season, moderately rejuvenated (or exhausted) from time spent away from work with family and friends. We celebrate and make bold statements about what’s in store for the coming months.
We make lists and resolutions.
A better job.
Time to quit smoking.
More family time.
Taking that trip.
Finally pursuing a life long dream.
…and then we stop. Somewhere along the way, we get overwhelmed, tired or just plain lazy.
The changes fade and we revert to our old ways.
have you ever stopped and wondered why?
The big secret.
I’ve let the cat out of the bag…and it’s nothing new, is it?
Insanity is defined as repeating the same behaviour and expecting the same result. ~ Albert Einstein
In order to remove your habits or reach your goals (where you have failed before) you have to change your behaviour and review your past attempts.
To succeed in the future you need to look into the past. Now you know what you shouldn’t do, that should leave you with the remaining choice – what you should do?
and then what?
Well, I lied when I said I wasn’t going to offer you a solution.
The answer is within you and you do have to do a bit of soul searching to find out your barriers. With most successes it boils down to a few positive virtues and a solid plan of action.
I think the key virtues for changing anything are:
- consistent effort
The trick is to bite them off in little chunks.
Stop overwhelming yourself and pick one little thing you want to change.
Grandiose plans have a way of falling apart, but little actions are more likely to bring success. You see, they are achievable, realistic and bring you one step closer to your goal. Mini goals work but only if you act on them.
It’s a bit like an avalanche, you will gain momentum as you go – it’s motivating.
Now this last idea is a little harder to grasp but consider it. Don’t create a deadline. After all, you have a little goal. Just work on that one little goal. If you fail, try again. Keep going until you get that one little change completed. Then move on.
Sounds funny, but even if you make 3 attempts at a little change and each one takes one month at the end of the year you will be 4 steps closer to a larger goal instead of being at ground zero.
Just like this article, it’s one step closer to my blogging goals. If I had written 3 half articles, none of them would have been posted…but this one is done and I am making life changes.
You can too!