dealing with your children after divorce
|November 24, 2009||Posted by simply stephen under divorce, parenting|
The most important thing is dealing with your children after a divorce.
They generally don’t have a say in it and as developing human beings will be affected the most. Their brains and bodies are developing and negative impacts can play a large role in how they turn out as adults. Take the time to realize this and make the steps to prevent and reduce any damage.
Be thankful that you have them and look to them for love and connection.
comfort and reassure
At various ages children and the parents of children will have different needs.
You can expect your children to react and have anxieties and fears. There are some things you can do to comfort and reassure them. Be consistent, reassuring and loving and they will thank you for it in the future. It will help them grow. Reach out to them and offer them your time and effort.
Remember to keep an open line of communication with them.
keep communications open
Forming a new relationship will require devotion, work and sensitivity.
The same rules will apply as forming one with them while you are in a family. It is best to encourage and assist your children at all times. While it is difficult to be apart, there are many ways you can help your child and connect with them – the phone and computer are great tools.
Today – send your child a quick email or note on a social media application such as twitter or facebook.
give them time, not things
Make sure that you don’t replace love with things.
Offering things is not a way to build relationships. Giving them your time and love is. They may need some new things if they have different living arrangements or joint custody. There are ways to do this by having a rotating bag.
Some families keep the home and the parents rotate every few weeks. Often the father gets weekend and holiday visiting rights. Remember to inform the child and be consistent with the other parent. Reliable visits will help establish a strong bond.